熟年離婚
最近よく熟年離婚という言葉を聞く。
長年連れ添った夫婦が定年を迎える６０歳前後に突然離婚するケースが急増しており、２０年以上同居していた夫婦の離婚を
「熟年離婚」と定義しているらしい。
マスコミ報道によると、ここ１０年で熟年離婚が２倍に増え、離婚の全体比でも２倍、
同居３０年以上に限ってみると何と３倍に増えているという。
しかも、離婚の申し出は圧倒的に妻側からが多いという。世の亭主族は、額に汗して妻子の為にとセッセと働き、やっと定年を迎え、
「少しのんびりと」と思った途端に、妻から離婚届をつけ付けられるという事らしい。
夫婦関係は百人百様で、離婚の形も一概に言えるものはないと思うが、理由がハッキリしないまま長年連れ添った妻に、
ある日突然離婚届けを付きつけられる男の心境たるや、如何に・・・。
ところが私の友人にこんな夫婦が居る。後２年で６０歳を迎える夫婦だが、この夫婦には子供が居ない。一般に子供が居ない夫婦は、
非常に仲良く見えるカップルが多いが、この二人もその例に漏れず、傍目にはとても仲睦まじくみえる。ところがこの夫婦、
６０歳になったら離婚しようと二人で決めているという。どう云う事なのかよく判らないがそう決めたという。
その話を聞いて、一寸考えさせられた。決して仲が悪い訳ではない、経済的に苦しい訳でもない、愛がない訳でもなさそう、
所謂夫婦関係が破綻している訳でない。だからニコニコしてお互いが離婚を話し合い、納得したということらしい。どうも、
６０歳で定年を迎えたらお互いが全く新たな出発をしようと云うことらしい・・。煩わしい干渉から一切離れ、
真に自分の人生を生きてみようと云うことのようだ。
お互い納得の上ならそれも良いだろうが・・、「そんなものでは無いでしょうが・・」と云いたいような気もする。
何れにしても一寸考えさせられる話であった。
Recently, we often hear the term “ripe old age divorce”.
The number of cases of couples who have been together for many years getting divorced suddenly around the age of 60, when they reach retirement age, is increasing rapidly, and couples who have lived together for more than 20 years are getting divorced
Apparently, they define it as “ripe old age divorce.
According to media reports, the number of ripe old divorces has doubled in the last 10 years, and the ratio of divorces to total divorces has doubled.
The number of people who have lived together for more than 30 years has tripled.
What’s more, the overwhelming majority of divorce requests come from wives. Husbands and wives work hard to provide for their wives and children and finally reach retirement age.
As soon as he thought he was “taking it easy”, his wife was going to follow him with divorce papers.
I don’t think there is a single form of divorce that can be said for every couple.
How can you imagine the state of mind of a man who suddenly gets a divorce papers one day…?
However, a friend of mine has a couple like this. The couple, who will be 60 years old in two more years, have no children. In general, childless couples.
There are many couples who appear to be very close to each other, and these two are no exception to this rule. But this couple…
He said they had decided to get a divorce when he turned 60. I don’t know what that means, but he said he decided to do so.
That story made me think for a moment. It’s not that we don’t get along, it’s not that we’re struggling financially, it’s not that we don’t love each other.
It’s not that the marital relationship has broken down. So they smiled and said that they discussed the divorce with each other and were satisfied with it. Thank you.
They say that when we retire at 60, we are going to make a completely new start… You’ll get away from all the interference.
It’s like trying to truly live your life.
It would be nice if we both agreed on that, but I feel like I want to say, “It’s not like that…
In any case, it was a story that made me think for a moment.
